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03 May 2018

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5/6/18 #SameHere Hero: Sheri Eddington

Today’s #SameHere🤙Hero: Sheri Eddington from Australia (Sharing her story with people doesn’t come naturally to Sheri.  She’s traditionally been a person who has kept things about her past, internal. But she believes, we’re in a world where so much is fabricated reality & everyone is starting to blend into a similar design, so it’s more important than ever now to be real & honest with ourselves & others.

 

There’s no question her own profile is a little edgier than most we’ve featured. But it’s edgy in a vulnerable way – things like showing an “Instagram picture” next to a “real picture” or a shot of body scars & tattoo removals, or of her balance between health (yoga), & some indulgence (wine).  We thank her for now also being open about her past through a #SameHere🤙Story, something she hasn’t done before.  She shares what she faced growing up w her father, abuse at the hands of another man, & even having a child without a boyfriend at a young age. Perhaps most refreshing is, she opens up that like most, she is still flawed & that’s ok as she works on herself. Thank you for sharing so openly, Sheri!)

 

“I was so shy growing up. I barely spoke, so I was an easy target for bullying. Everyone has childhood trauma to work through. At some point blaming my father for leaving me & causing deep-seated abandonment issues is probably void of self-growth.  It did, however, shape a pattern of seeking out the love & approval not received from my father in other less nurturing places. Filling the desire for companionship & affection with unfulfilling romantic encounters, I was vulnerable to unhealthy relationships.

 

I moved overseas solo & traveled the world searching for meaning. Always a loner I felt comfortable in my own company & fearless like most 19-year-olds. In a defining moment, everything changed for me when l was attacked by a man. Up until that point, I didn’t recognise I was so vulnerable to physical dominance. I thought I was quite a strong girl & that I could protect myself in this world. He took that from me.

 

I lost all confidence. I was scared. I still am.  I have scars on my skin as a constant reminder of what he did to me. I am still too ashamed to share this with people (I guess until now) as it contradicts the tough exterior I present to the world. I won’t be seen as a victim again & recognise I can over-compensate for my timid past with a sometimes too strong personality – it’s an attempt to stand up for the little girl still inside. I am now vigilant not to project that stuff on to my own daughter…

 

It’s still a surreal experience to say I have a daughter after being told nearly 10 years ago I’d never be able to conceive naturally.

 

I became pregnant in 2015. I didn’t have a boyfriend. I was 22, just finished filming a bad reality tv show with no stability in my life. The thought of having a baby was terrifying & unimaginable, & the thought of letting her go was even worse. I wasn’t at all ready. I cried every day of that pregnancy. I felt so alone but pretended I had my sh$t together when I was in fact, totally broken.

 

She has opened my heart. Now the people I chose to have in my world are there for the right reasons. I deal with life by being as authentic as possible. Life is tough & I don’t pretend that it isn’t anymore. I don’t compare my self to other women & I certainly no longer compare my life to the happy-family-ideal. So #SameHere, I’m a flawed human doing who is doing her best!”

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